Newly Diagnosed With Herpes- Living With Herpes and Dating Again


Herpes dating sites are increasing in popularity as people consider various way to deal with the challenges of dating with herpes.  A variety of articles have discussed the unique issues and obstacles people who are been recently diagnosed with herpes face and many of them encourage considering herpes dating sites.  The advice in these articles can be useful for people getting ready to get back into dating after having been diagnosed with herpes.

Living and Dating with Herpes

Newly Diagnosed With Herpes

As a popular web MD article notes, in many ways dating with herpes is no different than dating before your diagnosis.  You still want someone who can appreciate all your wonderful qualities and see you as the fascinating and complex person you are.  Being diagnosed with herpes hasn’t changed any of that.  A herpes diagnosis does however mean one more major conversation that has to take place before having sex. has some useful advice on when to tell a partner you have herpes.  They recommend not sharing this information on the first date, because you should give your date a chance to get to know you and see your wonderful qualities first.  They also don’t recommend trying to have the conversation when you’re just about to have sex.  It is best to discuss your diagnosis when both you and your partner are able to think clearly and rationally. also has the helpful reminder that “kissing, cuddling, and fondling are safe, so you don’t have to tell before you do that.”

The article’s advice that rejection is always a risk in dating helps to put into perspective the fears many have that people won’t want to date them because of their herpes.  While it is indeed possible that there may be people who won’t want to date you because you have herpes, there are also a million other reasons people decide not to go out with each other.  If someone isn’t able to accept a medical condition that you have, then they weren’t the right person for you anyway.  That doesn’t mean rejection isn’t painful, but you have to try not to let it get you down or prevent you from putting yourself out there again.

One way to avoid worrying about rejection due to a herpes diagnosis is to intentionally date other people who already have herpes themselves.  This can be useful for finding both casual and more serious relationships. points out that other people who already have herpes can be met using personal ads or dating services.  Websites that are specifically designed to connect people who have herpes is another option they recommend.  Using a herpes dating website takes away the pressure of having to discuss your herpes diagnosis.  Sex can happen if and when it feels natural in the relationship and you don’t have to worry about having a major conversation first.

Herpes is one of the most common STDs, but it can still have a major impact on your dating life.’s helpful and compassionate article gives some good advice on how to continue dating after being diagnosed with herpes.